It’s no secret that every bride and groom has an A-list and B-list of guests they want at their wedding, but usually they don’t let the guests know which list they made. But one couple decided to be transparent.
A woman named Mary von Aue recently shared a note that was included in a wedding invitation that described a strange method of RSVPing for the affair.“Please understand that our venue is limited in the number of guests we will be able to accommodate for our wedding day,” the note reads. “As much as we would love to have each and every one of you join us on our big day, we are forced to split our guests into groups to ensure we do not surpass our capacity restrictions.”
The note then describes the different way Groups A, B and C were to RSVP. They asked that Group A “RSVP as soon as possible,” and that those in group B and C check back on their wedding website to see if any seats become available.
The couple also encouraged guests to “hire a babysitter” and “leave your children at home” (to make room for more guests) - and asked single guests to “forgo their plus one if possible.” As you can imagine, folks on Twitter were pretty shocked and had something to say about this ridiculous RSVP.
- “My fav part is ‘please keep a close eye on our website for availability,'” one user wrote. “Like you’re that special that someone is checking your site constantly! & If I was group B or C I’d just send this response, ‘I opt out of this & all future correspondence. Thanks!'”
- @SiebeUS offered this: "She had to go through limiting guests because of capacity restrictions. It sucks because you are basically ranking your friends and family. This couple just laid out the facts in the easiest way possible."
- Another added, “Hilarious that it seems like groups B & C are identical, but to be C is just slightly more degrading.”
- "To the people who are offended-seriously, put your big girl/boy pants on and stop being such a baby," @cspiel offered. "The girl is just trying to plan a wedding during A pandemic and she is doing the best she can. I honestly don’t think she meant to offend anyone on her list."
- Someone had a totally different theory, noting, “What if everyone is group A, and they are making everyone seem important to them/ feel like they have to get a better gift?” adding, “It begs the question if you go do you ask what group someone is? What is the etiquette?”
- @MeganMcGilloway understands where the bride might be coming from. "A friend is battling with her venue because they informed her after lockdown that capacity would now be reduced by half for her October wedding," she says. "Everyone required to wear masks, and she couldn't cancel or postpone until 2021 or she'd lose her deposit."
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