Are you the bad friend? Now is a good time to reflect especially if you’re noticing that your friendships don’t feel as fulfilling as they once did. We’re adults! Life gets in the way and it’s easy to sometimes neglect the effort we put into our friendships when this happens. According to experts, these are some of the things we do that may not seem like a big deal but could be damaging your friendships.
- You give unsolicited advice when your friend just wants to vent.If your friend comes to you upset about something but they aren’t asking for your advice, then don’t give it. Handing it out too freely can make your friend feel undermined. You may notice them sharing with you less and less.
- You don’t ask questions about their life.Feeling like a friend isn’t interested, is one of the biggest complaints people have about friendships. Follow up with questions about how their life is going. Make a conscious effort to do so.
- You avoid confrontation at all costs.When a friend does you wrong, it’s easy to want to avoid them. No one actually likes arguing, but it doesn’t have to turn into that. Having an honest conversation about what isn’t working in your friendship is something that true friends do.
- You impose the expectations you have for yourself onto your friend.You probably have a lot in common with your friend but remember they’re their own separate person and the way they choose to live their life might not be the way you ever would live yours. But you should support them anyway.
- You get competitive when things are going well for them.While some envy is normal, you don’t want to be the friend who always tries to “one-up.” Practice gratitude in your own life so you can feel secure enough in supporting them in theirs.
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